When working with conflict, in families or between two individuals, my goal is always to support both sides to understand the other completely. This may seem obvious, but it is actually quite difficult for the two parties in conflict to do. There is always the tendency to prematurely problem solve. It’s premature when the problem solving requires effort and there is still reaction coming from one or both sides. There is a pivotal moment in the process when both sides feel truly understood. The energy drops and connection is made.

As many of you know I am quite passionate about discovering more about the neuroscience behind our relationship to the natural word.  I am assuming that our nervous systems function the same as if it were in relationship with another human being. Maybe I should be looking at it from another angle, but needless to say, I’ve done a ton of research on what’s called “interpersonal neurobiology.”